"Why Dont you Love me"

How do you know if you are following a certain formula of life? Perhaps we are all following patterns of behaviour which lead us to the same outcome over and over again, I found myself doing this, building new relationships with the same baggage brought from the previous one, wondering why I wasn't loved by everyone I met, Spending my time trying to please them all, this would make them love me, Wouldn't it? Learning to dig deep into the root of the problem helped me to see where I needed to change.