Love Shouldn't Hurt

Experiencing domestic violence is a reality some people live in on a day to day basis. Understanding the root of why this issue exists can be traced back to understanding the important components necessary for healthy relationships. Creating a healthy relationship involves, having self-love first and foremost, practicing self-development habits on a consistent basis, engaging in effective communication, setting boundaries, and respecting the boundaries set by those you desire to build a relationship with. Respect in general is a huge component of building a healthy relationship. When you care about someone you show them respect, in fact respect is even higher than love on the list of important things to include in a relationship. Respect acknowledges an individual's rights to free will as the infinite choice maker we all are. Love on the other hand says you care about a person so much you desire happiness for them unconditionally. In contrast, domestic violence often occurs when someone has forgotten or refuses to adhere to the principles associated with respect. This can come out of fear of losing the person, being attached to the familiarity of the relationship, and perhaps even fear of being alone. Whatever the reason causing the behavior associated with domestic violence, whether it be physical, mental, or emotional abuse; there is no justification for the behavior. In the Non-Fictional memoir 'Love Shouldn't Hurt' Melissa Holmes bravely shares the intricate details of what she experienced before she became an advocate for putting an end to domestic violence. Melissa shares her story in hopes of helping others to overcome the patterns of domestic violence. If you'd like to learn more about her story, or need support as you take a step toward healing from abuse visit her website: www.loveshouldnthurtny.com