The One Skill

Cultivate depth of purpose, mindfully work with the habitual patterns that hold you back, and practice a courageous willingness to be with whatever fears, patterns, and resistance that arise.

When we experience the groundlessness of our uncertain lives, we form habitual patterns to deal with it. Those patterns include:

 

• Procrastination

• Putting off healthy habits like exercise, flossing, and meditation

• Trying to control a situation by planning, lists, systems, and routines

• Grasping anxiously for control and feeling anxiety

• Lashing out at others in frustration and anger

• Perfectionism

• Complaining, seeing things as burden or chore

• Seeking distractions when you're overwhelmed

• Staying in busywork instead of focus

• Trying to exit when it's uncomfortable

• Judging, feeling superior

• Taking on too much, wanting to do everything

• Constantly worrying about missing out

• Ignoring a problem

• Avoiding playing a bigger game

• Eating comfort foods, watching TV, playing games

• Smoking, biting nails, porn

 

The book teaches you how to shift these patterns by mindfully recognizing and letting them go.